Understanding Your Attachment Style

From a licensed marriage and family therapist, this empathetic book is the key to achieving secure relationships with your loved ones and breaking away from painful patterns.

Our individual attachment style plays a crucial role in the quality of our relationships and is often the strongest predictor of how secure and connected we feel with others. Yet, many people remain unaware of their own attachment style—let alone how to shift from an unhealthy style to one that fosters safer, healthier, and more fulfilling relationships. Fortunately, awareness around attachment theory has grown significantly in the past decade. As this framework becomes increasingly central to modern mental health discussions, Marc Cameron is emerging as a leading voice in bringing this awareness.

Marc and his wife, Amy, have taken up the mantle of leading the How We Love brand, the organization founded by renowned attachment experts Milan and Kay Yerkovich. Building on the foundation of their groundbreaking book How We Love (with over 400,000 copies sold), Marc helps readers uncover and understand the attachment style they developed in childhood.

In this book, Cameron thoroughly explains each attachment style and provides easy methods for readers to self-identify with theirs. He offers clear, practical steps for moving toward a secure attachment style, providing the insight and direction so many are seeking to improve both their inner lives and relationships.

Understanding Your Attachment Style will not only help you understand your attachment style but also guide you in overcoming barriers associated with each style so that you can enjoy the healthy, loving connections you were designed for.

• “As a friend and colleague who’s had the privilege of seeing Marc Cameron’s work up close, I am excited to endorse Understanding Your Attachment Style! It reflects both his deep clinical expertise and his genuine heart for helping people heal and grow. Marc has a rare gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and relatable, without ever losing their depth. This book isn’t just informative — it’s a compassionate companion for anyone wanting to understand themselves and their relationships more clearly. If you’ve ever felt stuck in patterns you couldn’t explain, Marc’s insights will feel like a light turning on.”
  Becky Brown, President, NewLife, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor
• “Our Christian counseling staff and team at Focus welcome sound and psychologically astute approaches like Marc’s, which cooperate in our ministry’s quest to help individuals and marriages thrive in Christ. Understanding Your Attachment Style provides the tools that can help free people up for that lifelong journey of maturing in Christ and in our earthly relationships.”
  Jim Daly, President – Focus on the Family
• “In every generation, only a few books ever reach the ‘this is a life transforming book.’ Understanding Your Attachment Style is that book for me. I felt like I was getting insight and wise counsel from one of the finest counselors I know on every page. Marc’s amazing ability to communicate complicated life experiences into meaningful and practical insight is brilliant. I am already connecting better with my wife, my family, and my co-workers because of understanding why I act the way I act. There is not a counselor in the world who would not benefit from this book, and I know the impact will be transforming in homes everywhere.”
  Jim Burns, PhD, Founder, HomeWord, Author of Doing Life with Your Adult Children: Keep Your Mouth Shut and the Welcome Mat Out
• “I can’t wait to share this book with my clients! Marc Cameron synthesizes and conveys attachment style understanding into user friendly application. Using everyday language with easily relatable examples and analogies, he draws the reader into both a head and heart connection, teaching that secure attachment growth is possible. Thank you, Marc, for this, must have resource!”
  Jill J. Hubbard, PhD, Clinical Psychologist, Author, and New Life Live radio cohost
• "Marc Cameron has a way of making complex theories understandable and actionable. He has done that for attachment styles in a way that helps people understand their relational struggles and apply the solutions for improvement. I highly recommend this book for anyone who wants more harmony in their homes."
  Dr. Alice Benton, PsyD Author of Understanding and Loving Your Child in a Screen-Saturated World
• “Marc Cameron’s Understanding Your Attachment Style is a rare gem that combines clinical insight with practical wisdom for real transformation. No book I’ve ever read has given me as clear and rich an understanding of my own personal attachment patterns and where they derived. Cameron masterfully translates complex attachment theory into actionable steps, backed by solid neuroscience research on how we can develop earned secure attachment through intentional practice. His honest examination of his own journey adds authenticity without overwhelming the clinical framework. This isn’t superficial self-help—it’s the kind of deep, sometimes uncomfortable work that creates lasting change. I recommend this powerful resource to colleagues and anyone ready to choose the pain of growth over the pain of staying stuck.“​​​​​
  Anna Yusim, MD, Clinical Assistant Professor, Yale Medical School, Co-Founder, Yale Mental Health & Spirituality Program
• Combining rigorous psychological analysis with practical tools, Cameron constructs a valuable program wherein readers can acknowledge their developmental harms without being defined by them. Readers looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others will find plenty of insight.
  Publishers Weekly